I recently found out --from a very reliable source-- that an ex of mine was "using" during a tumultious period of relationship.I told myself that it didn't matter...it was a very long time ago...but still, something is nagging at me. So I thought I'd ask the readers of The Lisp what they thought...
Would you say something? Would you let it go? Does it even matter?
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I had a relationship that ended badly only to find out years later that he was coked to the gills the whole time. A horrible person that made me out to be a villain. He was happy to be free and so was I. When I found out years later, I smiled for the fact that I was vindicated. He went on to have a horrible addiction that claimed his life.
ReplyDeleteSo...Maybe there is some need to address the issue with your ex. if only in an attempt to save his life.
I'm a "forget about it" kind.
ReplyDeleteIt's over. Does knowing now make you want to change anything today? Then I say Let It Go. =)
I tend to stay friendly with my ex's but never had one have substance abuse problems or cheat on me during the relationship. I did have one start after we broke up and I was asked to help by his mother and brother but he denied it and never spoke to me again. He only had the problem for about 6 mths and although he was a different person during that time, it didn't impact his job or other responsibilities.
ReplyDeleteIf your ex is clean and sober now and you think it would help YOU resolve some things then talk with him if he's receptive. But you're happy now and in a good place so why mess it up?